It's crazy that I stayed so long and put up with so much but I was in love with who he was the first month then I realized it was his potential. I knew what he could be, and I saw glimpses, but because of those brief moments of kindness, I stayed. I wrote this list about him two months in and although the relationship only lasted five months, I am grateful for the experience because I have grown.
Aggressive, passive aggressive, hostile, does not value or appreciate you, mistreats you, volatile, defensive, angry, explosive, low self-discipline (smoked, overate, drank too much), selfish, angry when I was sad, manipulative, insensitive, Jekyll/Hyde, no compromise, inconsiderate, hurtful, and had ZERO empathy.
I'm still trying to get over the trauma. In the words of the great Maya Angelou, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."