Instead of having a healthy relationship with yourself, PsychCentral said it best when you make something or someone else more important. Over time, your thoughts, feelings, and actions revolve around that other person, activity, or substance, and you increasingly abandon your relationship with yourself. Codependent recovery entails a 180-degree reversal of this pattern in order to reconnect with, honor, and act from your core self. Healing develops the following characteristics: authenticity, autonomy, capability of being intimate, and integrated and congruent values, thoughts, feelings, and actions. It's time for you to be an actor in your life...not a reactor.
- 3 Steps to Heal from Codependency - Start Creating Healthy Relationships / Stephanie Lyn Coaching.
- 10 Steps to Overcome the Need for Approval (article) / Robert Leahy - Psychology Today.
- Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families Support Group
- Codependents Anonymous Support Group - "We attempted to use others - our mates, friends, and even our children, as our sole source of identity, value and well being, and as a way of trying to restore within us the emotional losses from our childhoods. Our histories may include other powerful addictions which at times we have used to cope with our codependence."
- Codependency Healing #1 Recovery Tool (Series) / Lisa A. Romano. Healing from codependency takes conscious effort. Codependency recovery takes self -awareness, a shift in focus, and attention to what is taking place in your mind. This is Lisa's number one codependent recovery tool that can help you increase your chances of healing from codependency.
- Codependency Recovery Stages - Full Psych Central Webinar / Ross Rosenberg. In a Psych Central Webinar Ross Rosenberg presents his compact and revolutionary 4-stage codependency treatment model and his “Surgeon General’s” Codependency Recovery Warning.
- Don't Rely on Others to Validate Your Feelings (article) / Sharon Martin. Have other people minimized, shamed, or invalidated your feelings? Having your feelings diminished, ignored, or rejected is a painful experience for all of us – but even more so if you’re a Highly Sensitive Person or survivor of abuse or other trauma.
- From Codependent to Independent (online course) / Mary Joye. Find yourself constantly trying to please other people, and seek their approval? Are you the 'go to' person for everyone else's problems? Or maybe you're afraid of being alone or abandoned, so you put up with unhealthy relationships to avoid it? All these things are symptoms of what is called Codependency, and by definition it's a loss of self because you're too busy taking care of others.
- Healing Codependency is More than Self Love / Alan Robarge. On this video, Alan Robarge, Relationship Coach and Psychotherapist, talks about ONE REASON WHY we need more than self-love to heal codependency. The popular manta of love yourself, love yourself, love yourself, often ignores the fact that we simultaneously need healthy connection and nourishment from others as well. We need both.
- Toxic Loneliness - Healing the Codependent Mind and Ending Family Karma / Lisa A. Romano. Do you suffer from codependency? Are you in a dysfunctional relationship with a narcissist? Do you struggle with boundaries? Do you struggle with the fear of being alone? If you were born to codependent parents, chances are your brain has been brainwashed to FEAR living ALONE! If your parents were afraid to be alone, they have brainwashed you to fear living alone as well.